Yesterday, a friend of mine posted on Facebook a link to the blog "Nerdy Apple Bottom", which is a blog by another mother. Sarah, the blogger behind "Nerdy Apple Bottom", posted a blog titled "My Son Is Gay" which was immediately followed in the body by "or he's not. I don't care. He's still my son." The Mother's rant, complete with an absolutely ADORABLE picture, was in regards to how her son begged to dress like a female cartoon character, about how it was a HALLOWEEN COSTUME and about the absurd reactions three of the other mothers at the preschool had in regards to her "allowing" her son to dress in that manner for a Halloween party. I in turn, shared the link to the blog with my friends list. As did millions of other people, as the blog went "viral", receiving over 1 million hits in 2 days and over 19,000 comments and counting. Sarah even went as far as to agree to appear on CNN via phone.
Unfortunately, the "professional" they also had on didn't seem to get the message. He was more concerned about the fact that he perceived this mother to have "outed" her five-year-old son as being gay. He even stated that a parents worst fear is finding out that their child is gay. Now, I don't know about you, but I can think of a LOT worse things than discovering that my child is homosexual. Such as having her ripped out of my arms by some mad-mad, being separated involuntarily for any length of time, finding out she has incurable cancer, etc. Those rank on the scale WELL above her coming to me one day and saying "Mom, I love women". I mean, really.
Maybe it's an LGBT/PFLAG thing, this tolerance. Maybe it's a Liberal thing. Maybe it's a Yankee (as opposed to Southern) thing. The point of the matter is that we should all be striving for tolerance. Isn't there enough hatred in this world? Isn't there enough of that going around? The child is FIVE, for crying out loud! He chose a female costume because he likes that particular character, not necessarily because he likes to cross-dress or, god-forbid, is gay.
I think people need to lighten up. And while this child may or may not have gay tendencies, so what?!?! Most of us have heard and the majority of us are now in agreement that sexuality is something we are born with. It is nothing that we can control. Allowing your child at age 5 to dress as a female for Halloween does NOT mean that he is now going to grow up to be gay. He could very easily grow up to be straight, and the kid down the block who played pee-wee football, dressed at Batman, Spiderman or some other masculine costume every Halloween could just as easily turn out to be the one who's gay. And who cares? So what? I can think of worse things. Like finding out that your child is a serial killer like Bundy. Definitely worse than finding out that they're gay.
1 in 10 people. 1 in 10!!
6 comments:
That blog did an amazing job of showing how it's not the kids that are the big problem behind bullying...it's the parents! The children of those mothers will pick up on those signals from their mom, and learn to act shocked or disgusted.
There are millions of worse things. For sure.
Exactly. It wasn't the kids at all. From the CNN interview, she said all the kids were fine with it and it was just the parents that had issues. Figures, right?
It's still so sad that even at 5 he knew people would judge him...
Very much in agreement with all of this. Homosexuality has been around for hundreds and hundreds of years... I'm not going to listen to what a book was written about by some people living in caves, as to why it's forbidden blah blah blah.
Btw, a little off topic... but I loved this article I found on CNN a couple weeks ago.. http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/10/26/coogan.bible.family.values/index.html?iref=allsearch
Lo - Agreed. He shouldn't be worried about that at 5. It's utterly heartbreaking.
Angy - Agreed! What on earth makes these people think that homosexuality is new and that if it was something people could actually change, would it really still be around after all these centuries? I think not. I also read that article and loved it as well.
I just had the gay debate with my mom. I love making her question her beliefs when I throw in the fact 'If it's a chosen lifestyle, who would CHOOSE to be criticized and ridiculed for who they CHOOSE to love." It doesn't make ANY SENSE what SO EVER to CHOOSE that lifestyle only to have the worst things said about you or to you.
I guess she's non-denominational christian as well, I'm not fully educated on ALL religions but according to her... Gays "sinning" are no worse than a murderer, child molester, rapist. I'm gonna have to disagree there.... Oh yeah, and ANYONE can be "forgiven" if you just ask for it... even child molesters who have also killed children after the disgusting act. Sorry, you're not gonna go anywhere 'nice' if there's a place like heaven that exists after all.
I'm sick of old fashioned beliefs. I threw in the article because what was acceptable back then in the bible is obviously not acceptable today. It's just how we as advance as humans. Look at african-americans 50 years ago, they had no rights... well, now we have a black president.
I also want to clarify that our FAITH in whatever we believe, that is, ultimately choosing where you'll go in your after life... should have NOTHING to do with who we choose to love and spend our life with. There are far worse things in this world to focus on rather than who a man wants to share his life with.
All you need is love in this world, that's all you need...
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